I definitely agree with the "hard to diagnose". I can say it definitely was not tire spin, I wasn't on the throttle that hard, and I was in gravel and would have heard that. It was definitely a shudder type of feel and I was just barely inching back when it did it. 99% sure it was a clutch slipping.
I am not sure how the PC-A controls the pressure in each gear, but the reason I question the PC-A is because I never noticed the shudder before replacing it, however, replacing it did fix the slow engagement. My thinking is maybe my old PC-A was slow to let the pressure come up, but maxed out higher? I don't know if that is even possible, but if it is, that may explain the reverse issue.
The flare could be a completely separate issue since it didn't really change that, or if it did, it was minor. I verified again how the shifts feel.
1-2 minor flare, but not a firm shift at all. Maybe 100-200 rpm increase, but only for an instant. .1-.2 of a second
2-3 larger flare, probably the biggest one, sometimes a long drawn out shift .75 of a second, sometimes only .25 of a second. Probably 300-500rpm increase.
3-5 very slight flare, but then engages firm. This one seems to be better after the PC-A as it didn't engage as firm previously.
TC lockup is not instant, but is solid. This feels like it's correct.
5-6 has no flare, just seems slow to bring RPM's down, however since the TQ lockup is engaged during this shift, i'm not sure how it really should feel. There is no rpm increase but takes probably .5 seconds for RPM to fully drop.
The direct clutch is one that I had to replace when I rebuilt it. If I remember right, it looked like it was the one that failed first at 190k, so I didn't feel it would be abmormal with that many miles on it.